The Beyhive has no chill: Repellent Anyone?

Original article written on April 27, 2016 and posted on

She’s still #trending and people are still sipping on that #lemonade, however the real question that everybody wants to know and that has the world in a buzz is, who’s the “becky with the good hair?”

If you haven’t watched the HBO lemonade special as yet, nor have you hypnotically subscribed to Tidal to listen to the album of the same title, then you must live under a rock or maybe you’re becky!!!!

The internet has been buzzing since Saturday with suspicion ever since bey dropped this line “He better call Becky with the good hair” that cheeky and direct line she spits at the end of the song “Sorry” made Twitter, instagram and the internet on the whole crazy with the Becky memes, quips, anectotes and jokes, but that’s only the normal people that didn’t take the line too serious, the beyhive on the other hand did what most of these stans, i mean fans tend to do and started bullying all the usual suspects and even some unsuspecting ones, but with the beyhive the only untouchable person on the planet is Queen Bey herself and maybe Obama!

the witch hunt list

Rachel Roy

Rita Ora

If there is one loyal group of fans on this planet it is the “beyhive” and if you cant afford the most toxic insect repellent, then i suggest you jump int a body of water, everybody knows bees cant get wet! The beyhive will come for you if you say even the slightest thing deemed negative of miss yonce’ just ask Kid rock, he got out the insect repellent and still go stung! Rachel Roy was no exception as a matter of fact no one on the witch hunt list was!

Rachel Roy

Y’all all remember the infamous Elevator fight where Solange went H A M on Jay’z for allegedly flirting with Roy at the Met Gala and Roy has since denied those allegations, however that didn’t stop the beyhive from going in on her once “Sorry” dropped,but Roy fueled the speculation by posting this on her Instagram which has since been deleted. The ‘hive wasted no time in letting her know how they truly felt.




Rita Ora

The “Body on me” singer was not exempt from the sting. Last year was a crazy year for Ora who had several touchy moments with Bey’s husband, enough to have gotten her stung from the hive for hugging him at the Met Gala Ball and for being rumored to have hooked up with Jay after she was signed to RocNation, but Rita has always denied those rumors, but this was not why the hive was attacking her now it was because she posted this pic on her instagram.  rita-ora-lemonade

The hive had it all wrong though, because this picture was posted days before the world had heard about lemonade. to add insult to injury, ora was seen on the scene wearing the same Givenchy dress Bey wore in the documentary! I think she should have consulted with the beyhive before making this very “smart” decsion.



Ora has since responded to the rumors saying ‘I never usually address tabloid gossip but let me be clear, these rumors are false,’ she tweeted I have the utmost respect for Beyonce.


One thing is for sure the Beyhive may not be the best source for factual information,but they are surely loyal! So for the sake of false accusations and the entire Hollywood industry becoming extinct, dying from bee stings, will the real “Becky with the good hair” please stand up!


I wanna play a “Game”

Jayceon Terrell Taylor, better known by his stage name “The Game” and most recently by his self-proclaimed name “meat print papi!” is one of the most infuriatingly sexy men on the planet! To me it’s not just his hood attitude, his mesmerizingly beautiful hazel eyes, nor the fact that he has the ability to spit sex game like Adonis himself, but my attraction for Game comes from his altruistic nature and his ironclad love for his kids. He’s Dr.Dre’s most notable protege, but for many of us who really don’t care about the material feats Game has accomplished, he’s s real life Robin Hood. 

 Ok first let me explain why I’m even writing about this relevant Instagram comment creeping sex symbol. Usually I’m that female that’s trolling the Internet looking for stories about the real issues plaguing the world and how I can use my platform to bring awareness to these issues, but I was on Instagram scrolling through my news feed about three weeks ago and almost choked on the Starbucks mango frappacino I was drinking! I’m not a fan of the Instagram famed exposed blogger “the shaderoom,” but I do follow their page cause they do stay abreast of what’s going on with celebrities and the likes. Anyway so about three weeks ago they posted this picture     

 Now everyone may not feel the way I do about a man covered in tattoos, but that lights my embriotic juices on fire! So as you can imagine I felt my whole body tingle.  The Game has this scheduled Instagram post thing he does he calls “fineniggafriday”, now let me tell y’all about Game’s #fineniggafriday!! 

This man deliberately poses barely clothed, snaps a pic, posts it to his Instagram page, then proceeds to give illicit and prolific instructions and imagery on how to give yourself an exhilarating  orgasm! Ok breathe.. just writing that and reflecting on some of the things he says just made me cross my legs and shift in my seat, but you don’t have to believe me take a look for yourself! 


Ok have you composed yourself yet?! I’ll wait… Games virtual sex talk is fire! If you don’t think so, then you’re probably that woman that gets cheated on all the time cause you think, sucking a dick is nasty! Listen you don’t have to like lewdness,  but your man doing half the things to you that game spits will have you picking his ass up from work waiting outside with the M27 IAR (that’s a really powerful machine gun) waiting for a female to even dare to side eye him! It would be that serious! 

I’m not the only one thinking like that, scrolling through the comments under these posts you can go into hysterics laughing from the lengths women would be willing to go through if Game were their man, or if their man was doing those things! From the amount of “likes” he has gotten on those posts, it’s very clear that Game is mind screwing a lot of women, but his reach doesn’t stop there, apparently men were taking notice of how the underwear Game sported in the pics enhanced his clearly and perfectly endowed “meat”, causing the men to the rush into stores to purchase the Ethika brand, creating a sizable increase in sales for the underwear mogul. 

Talk about power of the “meat”! If it’s one thing I’ve learned from this experience of trolling The Game’s  page; he has two by the way, it’s that Mr. Taylor likes to play Games, (pun intended) ’cause he owns the title, but becareful, when Game plays, he plays with fire and getting burned is an aphrodisiac! 



Recognize when you have been chosen! 

Relationships can be one of the most beautiful expressions of unified love, or they can prove to be one of the most damaging emotional experiences. Relationships that have “run their course” are the hardest ones to close. Neither individuals ever want to be the first to say goodbye, this is typically of those that have spanned for more than two years.

Letting go of someone you love is never an easy decision to make and for some women, it means having to start over and that is a startling reality many of us fear. Having to move on from a relationship where you have invested time and effort into will never be desirous, but we must be able and learn to recognize when you have reached a level of toxicity in a relationship.

If you find yourself having to question their every move, or you feel the need to snoop through his cell phone, he may have purposely left available in the open, understand that you are not in a relationship where you will ever have peace of mind.

Many women believe that once they have found “the one” they have to do everything humanly possible to make their relationship work, but what does “making it work” even mean? Does it mean blowing his mind every single time till he cries uncle during sex? Does it mean having and maintaining a perfect or near perfect relationship with his family and friends? Does it mean cooking every single night for him? Some of you maybe nodding your head in agreement that yes that’s what it means, but you’re wrong!  

Maintaining and having a steady relationship with a man is not solely about those things, in fact if you are a “chosen” woman it’s not about those things at all! When a man decides that he’s found “the one” three important things happen: 

  1. He let’s his friends and family know about you. What this means is that every other woman that they’ve seen him with or thinks he’s still smashing is done. He has intentions on bringing you around, so he’s setting the bar on the respect they must give to you.
  2. He calls up Sheniqua , Tasha, Keisha, Kimberly and Tanaya and let’s them know he’s with someone so everything they had is a wrap. What this means is he’s putting up the player belt and is ready to wear the settled hat. 
  3. He tells you that “the other day he was thinking about making a trip to the Bahamas”. What that means is, its official, he’s ready to start making memories that are of substance with YOU! Women please recognize in that instance that you have been CHOSEN! This is the moment you wrap your arms around him and kiss him. Just like his “unspoken I’m yours” is your unspoken, “thank you for choosing me.”

Maintaining this newfound status however for most women is the hardest job in the world, simply because you don’t understand the position that you’ve been given. Egos, insecurities, over exaggerated proclamations of independence and in some instances selfishness amongst other things tend to steer us back to the path of Singledom. We live in a era of egoistical “feminist” and self-entitlements of being dominant  or the “head” where it’s sometimes really unwarranted and we tend to spew this like vomit into our relationships with our men. 

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being independent and self reliant, but please understand overstating this and using it as an arsenal against your man is not a wise decision.  I’m certain that one of the reasons he chose you was because he saw your strength and quietly admires that about you, so unless you are dating a blind man, or an adolescent, that should be one of those unspoken communications between the two of you. 

Another unattractive hobby women do that leaves us asking the question “How did I lose him?” Is the constant hating and competition with other women for their man! Do you see anything wrong with that statement? The sad reality to this is, that we put ourselves in this competition Lil Wayne said it best, why you worried bout that other hoe,  that other hoe ain’t worried bout another hoe” and only for verbatim lyrics (I don’t condone or support women being called out their names) in many cases its the truth, and the reason she’s the one your man would be attracted to is that her confidence level is at a higher level. Side note here confidence is powerful and sexy, if you don’t wear it, you should go look for it in your size!

Ladies if he’s verbally said to you, he’s in this thing with you” why are you competing? There’s no need to feel insecure, nor to question whether or not he’s content with you. You’re only setting yourself up to create hypothetical “what ifs” and TV created drama in your relationship. This makes me revert to that old cliche saying, “if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it!”

Here’s a little inside secret from the memoirs of a side check with a really honest man. This honest guy told his side chick that she’s a good person, perhaps even wife material for someone, but just not him. He told her that he loved his woman, but that her insecurities just at times was too much for him to deal with. He told the side chick it wasn’t about how good she was in bed at all, but that she gave him what he was craving the most from the woman he did love and that was peace of mind” let that sink in for a minute with y’all. 

For all the self-proclaimed bad bitches out there that thinks you’ve won some prize or have accomplished some note worthy feat when a man comes to you instead of his woman, news flash kitty boo boo, you might only be the “filler” the fill-in till he’s ready to deal with the  drama from the woman who has his heart! For you nagging, insecure, hurt and broken women, please fix your life before you attempt to be in a relationship with a man! Stop with all the male bashing that “all men are dogs or are all the same! That’s the biggest manipulation and lie that women tell themselves and also the biggest projected foreshadowing of a doomed relationship. 

I’ve spoken with numerous males about this “choosing process” and how it works and the biggest peeve they have with women during and after this process and the general agreement they all seem to conclude, is that women worry way too much about each other as competitors when they should be concentrating on being what they need her to be and recognizing that they were the one that was chosen! 

When I had this particular conversation with Rob..we’ll call my friend “Rob” I was a bit perplexed because I had never thought about it that way, I needed him to explain what that meant. His explanation to me was that men do not process the dating or relationship dynamics the way women do. For a man, establishing himself as a provider to be comfortable enough to ensure stability for his future family is first and foremost in his head, they don’t concentrate on how long they have before their  imaginary time clock is going to expire, or of when they should have children or be married.

It’s not to say that they don’t think about these things at all, but it’s not for them as compulsory as women tend to think or make it out to be. When he’s ready to settle he will choose someone that fits his ideal perspective of a wife and then begin building that relationship up to press forward futuristically. His first step was that he chose you. For a man that is a huge decision! So logically he’s thinking if he chose you from among the many women that may have been options for him, why are you concerned with the women that are not you?

Singledom is overpopulated with bitter nasty and thirsty women. If you are in a healthy steady and progressing relationship recognize the very bold and empowering statement that your man has made and that is that you are Chosen!! Smile about that, let that fact adorn you and make him feel as though he is the King he deserves to be, because he didn’t have to choose you! 

I Am Black

The longest shit I ever wroteDear white people It doesn’t matter what my name is, because you see me all the time, I am in your child’s crayon coloring box, I am the dye in any article of clothing that you choose with a darker hue, I am that individual at the other end of your gun barrel that doesn’t look like you.

If you are not blonde, or your hair is not auburn in color then I am the dye in the color that you use to darken your hair to become brunette or to make it darker, am I becoming more familiar to you now, remember Kajieme Powell?

Yes I am black you know me well, for centuries you’ve tried to devalue my worth make me feel ashamed of the color of my skin, tell me that your “whiteness” is the high ness of human existence. Enslaved me behind your secret red doors, made my women your secret whores. Having your fill of “the American Dream,” the ecstasy fulfilled by a Nubian Black Queen, yet you defile the streets with the blood of Kings! Tamir rice didn’t get his crown because he was slain, im so sick of this, SAY HIS NAME!

Feel me like I’m your own skin, pursue me through your dreams till I’m deep within your conscience sight of what your future looks like. Don’t stop sculpting this road made of clay until you’ve created our inevitable meeting place. im here in these streets waiting for you to see me bleeding out and feel the rage that burns within the sanity of being human and helpless.

Dear white people my name is Black.

Can you please stop using me for purposes suited to your “in the moment needs” then discarding me? 

Look at me and see my skin know that I am not your enemy, but I am your equal because my sweat my tears the blood of my forefathers made it possible for us ALL to have freedom! 


If laughter is good for the soul, then getting paid with a reality check should be your second salvation! He doesn’t cut corners, has no bridle on his mouth and he’s not afraid to serve you your ignorance, opinion, or self believed prolific thoughts on a platter, then proceed to tell you to choke on it. 

He goes by the pseudonym “Evolver81” on Instagram. He is a member of the “Memetangclan” and by far the most honestly boorish of them all (that by the way, is a compliment)! 

He rivals “The Game” in my personal opinion for the title of “Petty King.” I’m just going to insert a warning right here: Do not attempt to tell him, what he can or cannot post to HIS personal page, or attempt to insinuate that he “Should” change his view or perspective to be “tolerated or accepted” by you or your opinions of him. 

Consider yourself warned. If you do not heed my warning, may your self-esteem and every good or positive feeling you had in that moment of commenting,forever Rest in Peace amen. 

Mr Evolver’s post are mostly parodies, voice overs, pictures or quotes of everyday events and issues that appeal to the funny bone in us all, but there are times when his posts are intended to provoke thought and to encourage, (mostly women) to respect themselves and to realize their humanly worth. 

He speaks as a man that values the woman, who understands that ‘respect of self’ is more appealing to a man than the value of her pocket and contributions to a relationship. He admonishes women to educate themselves and to believe that you don’t have to offer sex to be desired by a man for sex! (He’s profound that way!) He staunchly advocates for the empowerment of women who use their minds and not their bodies to gain the wealth that the world has to offer. 

It’s usually from these posts, the real humor and entertainment is found by his followers, because from the woodworks feminist, daring self-proclaimed  “philosophers and educators” and some really over sensitive men (men being questionable) arm themselves with arsenals of liquid courage to voice what would seem to most observers as their personal and biased opinionated commentaries on why they feel he should be a little less vocal on the subject being spoken on. 

This is the moment we (the followers) are usually waiting for. We proceed to check off the items that will be required to sustain our composition, once  Mr. Evolver acknowledges this or those individuals. The checklist: 

  1. Popcorn (this is essential because no one wants to interrupt his clapback) just keep your mouth filled and keep scrolling.
  2. Kleenex (you are almost guaranteed to laugh so hard you will cry)
  3. A friend (you can’t pick your own mouth up off the floor can you?) 
  4. A cardiologist ( heart attacks are likely to happen based on the severity of his response) 
  5. Funeral attire ( please know that after he’s done responding to the insolent commentator, they will have been verbally murdered) 
  6. A psychologist’s number on hand   (if you’re a nice person, you’d want to recommend the victim to one of these specialist) 

Overall his page is very multifaceted from the perspective that it can appeal to persons 17 and older who are not narrow minded, self righteous or just simply a prick!

 He doesn’t try to “kick knowledge” or try to “entertain” or be accepted by anyone; as a matter of fact there’s no effort of him trying to do anything! What he does do, is speak his mind on HIS page and says the things REAL MEN should say and REAL WOMEN can appreciate! His perspective of the evolution of women is appreciated and was recently reiterated by Ayesha Curry (wife to NBA basketball player Stephen Curry of the Golden State Warriors) their point of views on this particular social ill is what needs to be heard world wide! 

Mr. Evolver, we the real people of the world salute you, most people can’t handle a full 100, they prefer to keep it 8 less 92! 

Mr Intentionally Potential

Every heterosexual woman alive that is old enough to know about the cabbage patch dolls, has either met or dated this man!

He is the “right” height, he has the “right” level of education; (he knows the difference between I am & am; your & you’re & their, there & they’re, our & are) , he “understands your perspective and agrees with you that your ex, was a complete waste of human mass and he is willing to “wait” until you’re ready to take the relationship to a physical position. (Pun intended) he’s definitely “the one” right? Stop! No seriously stop!

If you find yourself saying this after just one conversation with a man, please put on the brakes, do not proceed to go, go directly to your safety zone, better yet, go directly to jail, you’ll be safer there! This man is the biggest manipulator ever to be birthed, I’ve asked God countless times why he creates these mean kind of people? These men are thieves, they rob you of time, mental focus, and for some of us they cause deep rooted malignant contention by insulting our intelligence!

Everything apparent and obvious about them is “perfect”, leaving you to believe that he is just too good to be true, believe me, he isn’t, but that’s the bait! Once you’ve adorned the hat of skepticism that he can’t be this image of perfect you concluded he is , you’re inclined to dig up the dirt, you need to get into his head and dirty laundry. Bait received. Now you’re spending time with the Sharman. He’s feeding you bits and pieces of a not entirely clandestine past, but one that’s not entirely as ivory as you first thought him to be either! Great, he’s a little normal and, here we go, “potentially datable”! RIP to time that you are about to waste over the next four to eight weeks getting to know this con artist of time wasting.

These men are not interested in a long term committed relationship, in fact, the word “relationship” is a word used to describe the dynamics between them and their selfish desires and intentions, notice the M.O. here, everything is about them. Their sole intent is to make you feel as though you are understood, you are appreciated and that they are nothing like the person you told them was the last scumbag on earth!  So they sit with you on a pre-planned date night to “talk” and get to know you! Ok let’s think about this for awhile… Men don’t like to “talk” and if they do oblige you with a “talk”,  it better have an opening sentence, a middle and a conclusion! They don’t have the emotional capacity to listen to all the explanatory and detailed presentation of whatever it is you want to talk about, but “Mr. Potential” does! he listens to what you have to say and he totally gets you! Excuse me whiles I roll my eyes!  This man is playing you like like Stevie wonder makes love to those piano keys, but you don’t see that though! You don’t see it because you don’t want to.

In the first month, because you’re still 15 percent away from trusting him enough to want to get physical with him, he texts you through the day, might give you a call on a lunch break or send you that “good morning” text that makes you believe you were the first thing on his mind when he opened his eyes, that right there is a guarantee to have him on your mind all day and he knows it! After dates, he’s undertandsbly going home.  He doesn’t pressure you at all for sex, might not even ask you or talk about it unless you bring it up! He’s got you like,” he’s so respectful” he is definitely potential boyfriend material. (The tactic here is to get you to relax with him and not feel as though you have to protect the goodies from him, because he’s only interested in sex, if you are. You’ll also do good to know that he has a sex bunny he’s got on speed dial, to keep him satisfied until he gets your goodies)

Second month.

So you’re on a home date,(your house, you’ve probably visited his home twice, he feels more “comfortable” with you at your place. This being because his place is an official bachelor pad, only meant for getting it in and putting you out)  maybe sitting on the couch watching a syndicated re-run of The Jamie Fox show, not really watching because your mind’s  still trying to grasp the fact that this seemingly genuine guy is single and not “cuffed” so you bring up that conversation (the one about him being boyfriend material) and he reaches over and kisses you on your forehead and says to  you let’s see where this goes and that’s he’s definitely open to that. You’re hearts a flutter, really, a flutter? no one even says a flutter, but that’s where you’re at, all tingly inside and getting really moist down there! You’re ready, ok he deserves to get the goodies! (Please note that he said “let’s see where this goes”, this as in what y’all are doing right then, before he even considered the idea of being in a relationship with anyone other than his selfishness)

He knows he’s got you, you just lost the initiative of having control over not getting your feelings hurt. He calls you up on Friday night, (yesterday was the talk) asking whether or not you have plans, because his best friend is having a get together and he wanted you to accompany him! Your heart is racing, you’re wearing that big Mr Kool-aid grin on your face and all of a sudden your voice goes to the annoyingly high pitch of Niki minaj’s Barbie voice! Of course you’re going to go, he wants you to meet his friends, things just got real between you, officially in your head this makes ya’ll “official”! STOP rewind! To yesterday after he left your house.

Mr  Potential: Yo, my nigga she just hit me with the boyfriend conversation, is this chick crazy? It’s only been a month, plus I ain’t even hit it yet!

Friend: What! my nigga you ain’t hit yet?

Mr. Potential: Nah man, I’m playing it cool, you got to know the kind of woman you’re dealing with and this one is real smart!

Friend: I feel you bro, so what are you going to tell her?

Mr. Potential: I ain’t telling her nothing, I’m going to bring her through to the party, make her feel I’m feeling that boyfriend thing, you know how chicks think man, they think if they meet the fam and friends they’re in! Mingle with you niggas for a few, then take her back to the crib, gotta make it look good, hit it n split!

Friend: (laughs) word, do your thing bro I’ll  holla at you then.

They give ‘daps’ and part ways. This is the conversation you have no idea that took place, whiles you went to bed all moist thinking you’re about to get yourself a new “good” man. So you tell him yes! He feels good, you feel good, it’s all good right?

Fastforward to the party. he introduces you to the alleged “best friend” who isn’t really his best friend, but the friend that’s always down for the low down and a few of his boys, a cousin or two because it’s all family there! You’re on cloud nine, your with your new man and he’s introducing you by your name followed by this is “the one” I told y’all about.

So he’s been talking about you, definitely he’s been thinking about what you said and he’s feeling it. Oh yeah he deserves to get the goodies, you want to make it physically official! He’s just so sexy right now to you because all of your guards have been dropped, and he’s gained enough trust from you to drop them panties and show him what your working with. You already know his goods are “workable” for you cause y’all been messing around “safely” without crossing the lines before you were ready, he’s so respectful! This is the conversation going on between the vixen in you and the tiny little bit of doubt trying to reason with you about not getting taken in so quickly.

He’s across the room talking to his friend but steadily holding your gaze making sure you don’t feel as though he’s abandoned you whiles his boy is singing the praises to him for being the player  of the year for reeking you in.

Fast forward to the end of the night. so he’s driving you home and he’s making good conversation telling you how his friends and fam gave him the approval of you and he’s indicating that he’s excited that you and his friends and fam get along, because you’re the first woman that they actually liked( ok yup, he’s a keeper) this is definitely worth giving a shot! You’ve made history in the books of Mr. potential, you have to give this a try and see where it goes.. Just like he said. (Please bear in mind he didn’t confirm that he was going to bring you anywhere it was an implication planted that you grew and watered all by yourself. )

Last night was perfect, first night meeting his best friend and some members of his family, you got the stamp of approval, the sex was worth the wait, he knows how to put it down in the bedroom, not to mention his cunnilingus skills is literally a brain screwing!  He made you breakfast before he dropped you home! This man is perfect! You sit and reflect on the last seven and a half weeks again with that silly Mr Kool aid grin on your face. Not even stopping to pause the breaks to realize that the last text he sent you was after he dropped you home and after all the pleasantries of “glad you enjoyed yourself blah blah blah,” he said “thanks for last night, it was good whiles it lasted”(please note that he just told you, you’re a great person, I’m really not, I had fun, see you around”) but you missed that though, being all Jessica Simpson and her infamous “chicken of the sea” comment!

Silly rabbit smh, you just got tricked!

The next day there’s no good morning text and only a “hey sorry I missed your call, my day has been hectic”  text after you called him at least three times to check up on him! You can only imagine what will follow. the lines of communication get smaller and smaller until you get no reply text or you get an automated message notifying you that “the caller is either out of rage or has turned off their phone” now you’re left with a plethora of unwanted hurt emotions and an anger that not even a hurricane would want to compete with, all because you ignored the warning signals and wasn’t paying attention behind that big dumb Mr Kool-aid grin.

Can I get some media with that privacy? 

It seems to me that in order to have privacy you have to bar down your house with 15 inch spikes, g12 your windows, make every guest/friend that’s going to be in your company leave their “smart phones” in their car or better yet at home and put in a futuristic alarm system that can smell the paparazzi coming 15 miles away! Nothing is private anymore and every one that has a modern smart phone is a photographer/videographer! 

If you’re teenish or twenty something and above, the internet is Life!! There’s nothing you can’t or won’t  find on there and I mean NOTHING!!! From prehistoric information about the stone ages, to the size, look, and feel of Justin Beibers penis, literally! When is too much information really inappropriate and who wrote the clause that if you’re a celebrity, you denounce having the right to privacy? 

Every one has the constitutional right to have privacy and to lead a private life, not subjected to the peering of onlookers and unsolicited opinion of people with a biased perspective. The world has long been obsessed with the “secret lives” of public figures and celebrities, but being categorized as a public figure, does not give anyone the right to intrude into that persons personal life. Here’s my point, just because I chose to go to South Africa and feed the underprivileged children there and word gets out about my philanthropic and altruistic efforts, does not give anyone an invitation, nor the permission to start digging up my entire chronological existence! What I did in South Africa was what I wanted to do as a human being in the position to help another human being not in my position. Where anywhere in that concept is the permission to divulge to the general public, my husband’s name, my kid’s name or invite the opinions of how my children dress or their mixed ethnicity? I’ll wait….

Being intrigued by the lives of people is ok, there’s nothing wrong with being curios about someone that has done a good deed or someone that is living their life in public view as an entertainer or general notable public figure, but understand that the only information that is rightfully appropriate for public scrutiny is the WORK that’s being done in the public view. 

The media intrudes on personal and in some instances intimate private moments where celebrities and other prominents would like a shot of “normalcy” like going out to dinner with family and friends or their significant other, please tell me why does that have to be news and made a headline in the next edition of the morning paper?!! If having dinner is news worthy, I’ll be in red lobster next week with my sister, seated at the back next to the Windows, I’ll be waiting for y’all to come and ogle me!! 

I’m sure it’s irritating to the celebs who can’t have a “normal” life and not because it’s not possible, but because the media over exploits the need for obsession with human beings who just happened to be a little talented! 

Do you really want to taste the rainbow inside of a birdcage? 

When I mentioned to a good friend of mine that I intended to write this article, the question posed to me was, “Are you sure you want to take on this giant?” I thought about his question, kissed his forehead and told him, I’m still praying that he realizes his lifestyle is wrong; said we’d catch up later and I walked out of our local Starbucks. I had to ask myself that question and ponder on it for a bit and I decided my answer was Yes!

From Love and Hip Hop, to Empire’s most dysfunctional idolized Lyons family, even reaching the “White House” homosexuality has come out in a big way! I don’t believe anybody has been left “in the closet.”

Over the last five years, there have been numerous celebrities, TV personalities, Prominent public figures, Singers and Athletes such as, Tim Cook; Apples’ ceo, Good Morning America anchor Robin Roberts, Raven-Symone, Prison Breaks lead male star Wentworth Miller, Jodie Foster, Cnn’s beloved anchor Anderson Cooper, Will and Grace star Sean Hayes, Latino superstar Ricky Martin, Sex and the City star Cynthia Nixon, Neil Patrick Harris, Growimg pains actress Merideth Baxter, Lady gaga, English actor Rupert Everett, George Takei, Former Cleveland cavaliers forward, John Amaechi; Kim Zolciack, RnB phenomenon Frank Ovean, and football player Michael Sam, has openly admitted to being homosexual, and as such and in response to these admissions, you’ve had persons who are opposed to that lifestyle, and so the war begins.

Let’s first look at the word homosexual, as it is defined in the unabridged Miriam Webster dictionary:

Homosexual: Of relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the same sex. When I look at the physiology and anatomy of man and woman I am exhorted to agree with the original instruction in Genesis 1:28, where God gives a mandate to Adam (a man) and Eve (a woman) to populate the world by “being fruitful and multiplying.” Translating that for secular transparency, God basically told them y’all get to sexing, no prophylactic required, go make lots of babies! It’s pathologically, virtually, scientifically and any other action word you’d like to append the “ly” adverb to, impossible for two people of the same sex to procreate!

Do I believe all men are created equal? No. do I believe a person was created /born gay? No I do not! However, philosopher Sigmund Freud was of a different theory, asserting that we are all born as bisexuals! That would be a complete contradiction to the bible if that were the case. I do believe Homosexuality is a choice, one that’s made by individuals that are unexplainably addled about their natural origin and sexual make up! 

Homosexuality is no longer frowned upon as taboo, it’s not even looked at on the mainstream as unnatural, in fact, transgendered individuals are being praised as heroic and brave, the loud, boisterous and flamboyant Sydney Starr was recently interviewed and made claim to being the “mother” of transgenders replicating the Nicki Minaj favorite punchline “these bitches is my sons.” Caitlyn Jenner formerly, Bruce Jenner, was awarded the Arthur Ashe Courage Award, I’m still waiting for them to explain that one! This year alone major milestones have been made within the LGBT community, particularly in the United States. On June 26, the Supreme Court passed the ruling making it legal for same sex marriages nationwide and president Obama lauded it as “A victory for America” I supported Obama before that day. 

Various research and studies into why individuals are gay have been carried out, the unanimous conclusions have been that it’s a choice that a person makes, whiles others have debated that it’s a genetic trait that a person was born with. Those that don’t believe the latter and opt to concede with the predecessor are branded as homophobic and like those individuals and their beliefs, I’m certain this article will be branded as hateful or homophobic or bigotry, but to the contrary, I’m in no way a bigot, and I am far from homophobic! I love men, I love women, however my sexual desire to be with a woman is nonexistent and it’s for the simplest reason, a woman cannot satisfy my deepest desire, and that is to procreate with another human being with whom I have a deep love connection. It’s nothing profound, it’s just that simple! 

In 1970, Homosexuality was declared as a mental disorder and for over 23 years it was looked upon as such by the APA (American Psychological Association) and other researchers and medical institutions. It was also listed in the DSM (The diagnostic and statistical manual that the APA uses as a classification of standard mental disorders), however, with insurmountable protest between 1972 & 1973, the APA caved under the pressure and with a board vote of 13:0 with two noted abstentions, homosexuality was declared as “normal” and to be a form of sexual expression,” this is both repugnant and a contradiction. To me it would seem as though the APA and the other “qualified” organizations to make such diagnosis, have been hoodwinked and have bended to the contagion of this era of “open minded or free thinkers”; this is so depressing. 

In spite of many of the most credible bodies of organizations and groups forming the majority of this growing demographic of people, there’s still hope, the minority, it would now seem as they are, of the presumed bigots and homophobic are not capitulating their stance with regards and I’m with them! 

It is beyond reprehensible to consider that “black is the new gay” a phrase spewing from the mouths of many. There are so many things wrong with that phrase. When you think about the color black, it’s opaque almost giving off the impression that’s it’s so coagulated that it might not be penetrable, with that presumption one might allude to it being strong and if you look at black from that perspective it’s impossible to see strength being debased or being broken down into a nothingness. However, this is exactly what is happening to the black community, more and more black people are embracing this wide spreading sickness and devaluing the pride and power associated with being black. They’re being blindsided by this distraction and not realizing how it’s weakening everything ancestrally fought for which is the freedom to be black without prejudice. What enrages me the most about this is not that I believe that black people are a superior race to any other race, but that when it comes to being “Christian or Spiritual” you find that blacks are the most vocal! 

Your grandmother could probably quote the bible to you in her sleep, but she can’t remember what she ate for dinner and growing up in a Christian home, you don’t have the privilege of claiming to not know what’s wrong or right according to the bible. The intangible cost to black people is the thing they hold close to them the most, their pride and losing the grasp of whatever respect comes with it! Being black and being gay, is like an Obama growing up in a Trump home. Celebrities are the most powerful people on the planet, but even wielding that brand sometimes is not as powerful as the unity of blacks. When RnB singer Frank Ocean publicly confessed his sexuality preference, the black music industry abandoned him like he was leperous! Understand what it means to be black and the tolerance that the average black person does not have for that lifestyle.

Religious leaders are prevaricating when it comes to their stance on the subject, some not so evasive. Oliver White the pastor of Grace Community United church went on fox radio back in 2013 and boldly said that Jesus made a mistake about homosexuality and that “If Jesus were alive today, I think he would be more inclined to say: ‘you know, I didn’t know it all’….Blaspheme! 

I’d like to emphasize that my disgust and intolerance for this preternatural way of living and thinking does not come from any hate, nor am I ignorant to the lifestyle and the cage that comes with it. My biggest peeve and may be my only one with 98% of homosexuals is their attitude of entitlement. That they have a “right” to abase the bible and to call Christians heretics! It’s just insanely ridiculous how they fight for equality yet, attack anyone that does not support their lifestyle and it’s an extremely dubious assumption to make that a non-supporter of homosexuality is homophobic! Really?!! This is a general and erroneous provocation that the LGBT community purports of being marginalized and it’s very sad! 

The emotions of many human beings are fickle, that’s a fact and not an overstated opinion. Love and all its idiosyncratic devices can find and lead us to many places some of us cannot not fathom nor willingly desire, however, by design we are instinctive beings. There’s an alarm that goes off in us, when we either sense or discover danger, the less prone to an aficion for adrenaline will divert their course, but those with an appetite for disaster will draw near and homosexuality is the biggest suction device ever to be developed! It’s like “a dark sweet desirable taboo,” the curiosity of tasting yourself in another mirrored reflection of you, is alluring, but once you’ve sampled the physical and embraced that raw carnal desire, it’s very difficult to leave that birdcage! Your every sexual demented fantasy is being sated and the allure that it’s taboo electrifies the very core of your emotions! The master feeder is your sexual carnality and because it is you, it’s difficult to find anything wrong with yourself! You see the opposers as “close minded” or bigots or homophobic, when in fact it’s you that’s the real bigot and heterophobe. 

I have one last plight, I really would like to understand, if you say that you are a man that’s interested in another man, why are you attracted to a man dressed in women’s apparel, or a man that goes to the extreme to replicate a woman? If you are a woman that’s interested in another woman, why is there a need for a strap on or to crew cut your hair, strap down your breast and try your hardest to imitate a man? This is why the argument of homosexuality not being a mental disorder will for me always be a moot point, because that right there is to me contorted thinking.