Gabourey Sidibe: I’m Every Woman!

The Original article was written on March 8, 2017 for The Overdoseonline.com

33-year old Gabourey Sidibe is the poster child for “Unapologetically loving the skin you’re in,” and in a recent interview with People magazine she discussed why in spite of her appreciating her curves, the weight she had long carried, had to go!

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She had battled anxiety, bulimia and depression, due to her parent’s split, but her biggest battle was her relationship with food. A trip to her doctor would reveal another battle to add to the number of fights she would have to win, which was to be the biggest yet, Gabby had been diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes.

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In her upcoming memoir, ‘This Is Just My Face: Try Not To Stare,’ Gabby tells Peoplethat:

“My surgeon said that they’d cut my stomach in half. This would limit my hunger and capacity to eat. My brain chemistry would change and I’d want to eat healthier.I’ll take it! My lifelong relationship with food had to change.” She wrote in her memoir, ahead of its scheduled May release about the laparoscopic bariatric surgery she underwent last year.

“The surgery wasn’t the easy way out, I wasn’t cheating by getting it done. I wouldn’t have been able to lose as much as I’ve lost without it.”

Since the procedure, the Oscar-nominated actress has changed her eating habits and is now working with a trainer and consulting a nutritionist. She’s so committed to her new lifestyle and the journey to maintain her weight loss, that she rides a tricycle around the set of her TV show ‘Empire’!

“I used to hate mirror selfies. Now I do them every day. I’m just too black and fine! I can’t help it!” She captions the photo below:

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This new outlook is a far cry from her past.

“It has taken me years to realize that what I was born with is all beautiful, I did not get this surgery to be beautiful. I did it so I can walk around comfortably in heels. … I want not to be in pain every time I walk up a flight of stairs. … I know I’m beautiful in my current face and my current body. What I don’t know about is the next body….I admit it, I hope to God I don’t get skinny. If I could lose enough to just be a little chubby, I’ll be over the moon! Will I still be beautiful then? S—. Probably. My beauty doesn’t come from a mirror. It never will.”she writes.

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She’s confident and happy! It’s been ten months since she had her surgery and she’s continuing to embrace her new look and new state of mind.

“There’s nothing ugly about me,” she writes. “Anyone trying to convince me that I am — and it’s usually me — is wasting her time. I was in a war with my body for a long time. If I’d started treating it better sooner, I wouldn’t have spent so many years hating myself. But I love my body now.”

The actress added that she has a goal weight, but that’s private.

“I have a goal right now, and I’m almost there,” she says. “And then once I’ve got it, I’ll set another. But my starting weight and my goal weight, they’re personal. If too many people are involved, I’ll shut down.” she told People.

We’re happy for Gabby for taking the first step towards taking control of her health and towards fighting her diabetes. We also applaud her for continuing to be a positive proponent for appreciating your body despite what anyone says is “the standard”.

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Ayesha Curry: The Real MVP

Original article written and posted to FreddyO.com on April 23 2016

Ayesha-Curry-Wearing-Clothes-Twitter-RantThe year was 2015 the date December 5, Ayesha Curry committed treason! She dared to voice her moralistic opinion on the way a woman should be “appropriately dressed” in public. Why did this make headlines? Why was this even considered a traitrous or ambiguous statement against womankind? I’ll tell you why, because the demographics of “feminist” has evolved.

Today, being a supporter of women’s equality means you have to be “open-minded” about the way women choose to conduct and “express” themselves. In other words don’t condemn a woman who dresses like this

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Wait, sorry that’s not a dress and that’s not a woman; that’s actually Kanye’s wife!

In today’s “modern world Ayesha Curry is an anomaly and so are her views about what should be sacred for your husband, that’s right Husband, not boyfriend, or boo thing! It’s no longer considered moralistic to feel naked when you’re not wearing any clothes in PUBLIC, instead it’s viewed as a form of “expression” and all about a woman being “comfortable” in her own skin. Le sigh….

Ayesha is a full proponent for women respecting themselves in a manner that’s also respectful of others, to suggest that she is a feminist or a “slut shamer” is ludicrous, but to brand her as an anomaly should be shameful to ALL women. There should be no debate on whether being nude in public is distasteful, it’s just plain wrong, especially if you are a role model to or for younger girls!

She makes being a woman look so easy, but i bet that’s because she has a man that supports her and treats her like the Queen she portrays herself to be. Her husband maybe a bigger celebrity than she is, but when it comes to keeping it all together he gives the credit to God and to her.

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In a world where politicians are trying to “Make America Great Again” by antagonizing minorities and encouraging hate and segregation, where women are devaluing each other, “hip-hopping in the name of love” we need more women like Ayesha Curry who can stand in a kitchen all prim and proper and show how us how revenge to haters is best served!

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Purple Lemonade

Original article written on Freddy O.com on April 24, 2016

Prince has died and Beyonce’s out here serving lemonade!

The music industry in the last 72 hours lost an iconic part of black history with the passing of one of Music’s biggest pioneers, Prince left us in heavy rotation of falling “Purple Rain,” but Beyonce got her umbrella out here serving this bitter sweet purple lemonade and she’s serving it with a dose of hot sauce!

The anticipated album from the muva’ of roc nation dropped only moments ago on Tidal preceded by an hour long visual album special that aired on HBO that will have your head spinning, jaw dropped all the way past the concrete and your sub conscience going “i knew it”. Did she deliver? The answer is simple, doesn’t she always? She gave us southern hospitality, goth, emo, even a little country. This is none like any album she has put forth to date. This is Beyonce exposed and this should come as no surprise that she is exposing and validating truth on her terms! You might however want to sip slow and sit down whiles ingesting this glass of “Bey’s truth because the relativity to your own life might choke you!

The HBO special delved deep into the very core of Black people and why more than ever it is truly time for us to get in “Formation” and it’s not just because our sons, brothers, husbands or fathers are being killed, but also because black people are divided and are hurting each other! The many high profiled cameos that came through to support Beyonce with this project demonstrated what power and change can look like if we as black people learned to love ourselves, heal each other and build each other up!

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We heard the sultry voice of “The Weekend”  as Bey gave us some “red-light special” action in “Emptiness”. Serena Williams strutted her beautifully structured curves in “Sorry” as Bey looked all kinds of crazy in the chair she was sitting in, but she was everyone woman sitting in that chair that has been through the hurt and embarrassment of being betrayed by the one you love. We saw intimate moments that took place in her private home life with husband Jay-Z and even never before seen footage of her pregnant belly, putting to rest the rumor that she had a surrogate carry Blue Ivy.

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It seemed as though Bey was talking to every man and woman that has felt the pangs of people hurting people who claimed it was in the name of love through this album and HBO special, whiles subliminally airing her personal warning letter to her husband. It’s apparent that this album is personal! Years of speculation that her marriage was a tumultuous one validated by her in one night! She bears it all, her vulnerability, her ego, her jealousy and her crazy!

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The lyrics to some of the songs alludes to the possibility of a forthcoming divorce, validating the rumors that circulated on the net that Jay-Z had in fact cheated on her. In this HBO special though, Bey served him a dose of reality and read him right saying “This is your final warning, You know I give you life. You try this s–t again, you gonna lose your wife,” a line from the song “Anger”. She is not playing, letting him know that she is not the one to be cheated on! Shots were fired and she blew a baseball sized hole through her target’e ego and all of the “sidechicks” that want to think about being his sidechick!

This lemonade gives you life, your life, it serves you a dose of reality, hers and yours, Bey gives you intimacy, pain, betrayal, anger, crazy, but most importantly she gives us the secret to healing and forgiveness. With each of these lessons heard through the 12 songs that’s on this album, Queen Bey has yet again demonstrated why her crown stays on top of her head, it’s because she’s figured out the secret to a happy life and that’s embracing your crazy, so that you can stay sane! Now this is how you “break the internet” with purpose!

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 Full “Lemonade” track list:
1. Pray You Catch Me
2. Hold Up
3. Don’t Hurt Yourself
4. Sorry
5. 6 Inch
6. Daddy Lessons
7. Love Drought
8. Sandcastles
9. Forward
10. Freedom
11. All Night
12. Formation

Prince has died and Beyonce’s out here serving lemonade!

The music industry in the last 72 hours lost an iconic part of black history with the passing of one of Music’s biggest pioneers, Prince left us in heavy rotation of falling “Purple Rain,” but Beyonce got her umbrella out here serving this bitter sweet purple lemonade and she’s serving it with a dose of hot sauce!

The anticipated album from the muva’ of roc nation dropped only moments ago on Tidal preceded by an hour long visual album special that aired on HBO that will have your head spinning, jaw dropped all the way past the concrete and your sub conscience going “i knew it”. Did she deliver? The answer is simple, doesn’t she always? She gave us southern hospitality, goth, emo, even a little country. This is none like any album she has put forth to date. This is Beyonce exposed and this should come as no surprise that she is exposing and validating truth on her terms! You might however want to sip slow and sit down whiles ingesting this glass of “Bey’s truth because the relativity to your own life might choke you!

The HBO special delved deep into the very core of Black people and why more than ever it is truly time for us to get in “Formation” and it’s not just because our sons, brothers, husbands or fathers are being killed, but also because black people are divided and are hurting each other! The many high profiled cameos that came through to support Beyonce with this project demonstrated what power and change can look like if we as black people learned to love ourselves, heal each other and build each other up!

beyonce-new-album-dbfd7824-e0cf-4b04-8830-24e9472e0239

We heard the sultry voice of “The Weekend”  as Bey gave us some “red-light special” action in “Emptiness”. Serena Williams strutted her beautifully structured curves in “Sorry” as Bey looked all kinds of crazy in the chair she was sitting in, but she was everyone woman sitting in that chair that has been through the hurt and embarrassment of being betrayed by the one you love. We saw intimate moments that took place in her private home life with husband Jay-Z and even never before seen footage of her pregnant belly, putting to rest the rumor that she had a surrogate carry Blue Ivy.

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It seemed as though Bey was talking to every man and woman that has felt the pangs of people hurting people who claimed it was in the name of love through this album and HBO special, whiles subliminally airing her personal warning letter to her husband. It’s apparent that this album is personal! Years of speculation that her marriage was a tumultuous one validated by her in one night! She bears it all, her vulnerability, her ego, her jealousy and her crazy!

landscape-1460944585-beyonce-lemonade-4

The lyrics to some of the songs alludes to the possibility of a forthcoming divorce, validating the rumors that circulated on the net that Jay-Z had in fact cheated on her. In this HBO special though, Bey served him a dose of reality and read him right saying “This is your final warning, You know I give you life. You try this s–t again, you gonna lose your wife,” a line from the song “Anger”. She is not playing, letting him know that she is not the one to be cheated on! Shots were fired and she blew a baseball sized hole through her target’e ego and all of the “sidechicks” that want to think about being his sidechick!

This lemonade gives you life, your life, it serves you a dose of reality, hers and yours, Bey gives you intimacy, pain, betrayal, anger, crazy, but most importantly she gives us the secret to healing and forgiveness. With each of these lessons heard through the 12 songs that’s on this album, Queen Bey has yet again demonstrated why her crown stays on top of her head, it’s because she’s figured out the secret to a happy life and that’s embracing your crazy, so that you can stay sane! Now this is how you “break the internet” with purpose!

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 Full “Lemonade” track list:
1. Pray You Catch Me
2. Hold Up
3. Don’t Hurt Yourself
4. Sorry
5. 6 Inch
6. Daddy Lessons
7. Love Drought
8. Sandcastles
9. Forward
10. Freedom
11. All Night
12. Formation

 

It’s a RAP

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Ok i said I wasn’t going to say anything about this Remy Ma vs Nicki Minaj “beef,” but after reading all the comments posted on the many different blogs; I had to do it!!

For those of you who live under a rock, or just not a fan of the rap industry, in the last 48 hours, a war-of-words, memes and subliminals have been circulating on the social media mainstreams, IG, Twitter, Facebook and the web at large, because of this; see image below.

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How to lose your man in 3 easy steps. 

Some women just can’t help themselves, perhaps they can blame genetics, that the “nag” in them comes from a long history of insecure women of her family tree. Perhaps, it comes from past experience of broken trust from a former relationship, but wherever it comes from, nagging and insecurity are two of the biggest contributors to being a nominee for “singledom” membership. 

If you are looking for ways to intentionally lose “your man” just follow these three easy steps! You’re welcome! 

  1. The minute he gets home after a hard days work, start nagging him. Let him know that you had a long day and don’t want to come home to have to move his shoes from the front door to the closet, or that he promised you yesterday that he would fix the bathroom faucet when he got home and it isn’t done yet. Do this everyday, don’t consider the day he may have had, or that unforeseen phone call he may have gotten that a long time homie may have just been gunned down right before he got home. Accost him 0.145 seconds after he walks through the door. 
  2. Constantly remind him of how “independent” you are. Remind him of how when you first met him you was “good” doing your own thing and didn’t need no man, even though he met you walking on your street about to catch the #10 bus to the mall and offered to give you a ride in HIS car!  Jab your independence in his side when you’re having one of those “We need to talk” conversations that just went south, cause he asked you whether or not y’all was good three weeks ago about the conversation you want to talk about right now that he isn’t interested in hearing, so now your bitchiness is at 100!
  3. Constantly compare him to your ex, you know that great ex you caught cheating on you multiple times that used to abuse your trust, but bought you gifts and took you in trips to compensate for his manly deficiencies? Yeah that ex. ALWAYS do this during one of those arguments you would have started from point #1 

After completing these three simple steps you are guaranteed membership into singledom! The kingdom where single women bitch and complain about how all men are dogs and try to give women in otherwise happy relationship advice!